First, our
society needs to recognize the
problems
that inhibit a victim from breaking the
cycle of
abuse inflicted on and controlling
them and
their children.
There are
currently emergency shelters
for the
victims of domestic violent crimes through
out
America. Most shelters only allow a victim
to stay a
maximum of thirty days. One month is
not
sufficient time for the victim to gain skills,
become
established and ready to support themselves. It is our opinion
this is the primary reason victims leave their abuser and return an
average of seven times before escaping permanently. This also
explains the primary reason for the statistic that tells us that
one-half of the women who are homeless are women who have opted to live
on the streets rather than return to their abuser for more beatings.
There is a
real need to start these victims and their children with a program
helping
them
adjust and gain a level of confidence in themselves, thus combating the
many years
of
brainwashing reinforcing their perceived unworthiness of any self
esteem. These
victims need
a secure environment to begin their initial healing. In the
Can Too Center's
safe campus these victims can realize the
hopes that are
necessary for them to develop the
needed commitment
to the training
that is offered to them by the Can Too Center
program.
This second phase by Can Too Center is to
teach them the skills of good parenting,
stewardship of
their own finances and
educate them with skills and training
that will
enable them to be productive, valuable employees of tomorrow.
Helping
victims should exceed just giving them a place to hide for a few weeks.
These
victims are still panicked by the thought of returning, and are ssuming
there are no
options
for permanent escape. REAL HELP is
teaching them the skills and training so
that
they can become independent and confident people. By the victim's
gaining these
new
skills and independence their children are able to start a new
path themselves to become self-sufficient and loved as they become
loving adults thus breaking the cycle.
